We all have problems that we have to deal with on a daily basis. Or we all have problems that we refuse to deal with. Or better yet, we have problems that we like to dump on others.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to share your problems with another person. Most of the time it helps to rant and rave about what is currently vexing you. It can be especially helpful if that person is a good listener and has a good idea of how to help you in some small way. Having that go-to person that you can count on to carry your burden and help you cope is someone to always keep around. Those are very special people.
I have no problem with these people. It’s nice to have someone who trusts you enough to confide in and to be able to feel that in return. However, the people who blame their problems on others, I do have a problem with.
If you make a mistake, even a royal mistake, own up to it. Take responsibility for it and don’t take others down with you. The quicker you take responsibility for your actions, the faster you can rectify them. And the faster you can move on with your life and make your next mistake.
At my new job, I’m still in the learning stages. I’m still learning the ropes and I have made plenty of mistakes. But I’ve also had plenty of opportunities to fix things. I could easily blame these mistakes on others by saying “So-and-so never told how to do this” or “So-and-so never told me it had to be done in a certain way”. Instead, I’ve found that all I can really do is do things correctly the next time. Because there will always be a next time. A next time to make things right and a next time to make things better. I’ve found the best way to do this is to ask for help. I ask for help on things every day just to ensure that I do things right the first time. And in the cases where things still go wrong, I just ask for help again and rectify the problem. It’s nothing to lose sleep over or beat yourself up about. It’s just simply a mistake and we all make them.
Some problems are your own and you need to be able to take responsibility for that. Blaming others will get you no where and it’s not someone else’s job to fix all of your mistakes. It’s simply not their problem.
Or as my co-worker so eloquently puts it: “Not my circus, not my monkey”.